Not Quite Moms

I am a “not quite mom.” My youngest stepson (5 when his mom died) tells people his mom died, but he has a Jane. That’s me. I am his Jane.

My oldest stepson (10 when his mom died) has told me he doesn’t see me as his mom. I’m his parent. Not mom, just parent.

I have a wonderful relationship with my stepsons, and I am their mom in every way except biological. I am the only mom present - there is no shared custody plan and no weekends off. I am a full-time parent, but I’m not quite mom to them. And I’m not quite mom to our community who remembers his “real mom” and will never let me forget that I’m not her.

The mission of this blog is to help not quite moms deal with societal pressures and criticisms while creating a calm, stable, supportive, and loving home for their stepchildren. It is a monumental task!

Being a “mom” is possible without being a “Mom,” but it is a heartbreaking exercise in self-sacrifice. I learned to manage my expectations and face situations with humility and hope – an uneven pathway of obstacles led me to happiness, peace, and the love I deserve.

My hope for you is the same.