Raising children whose parent has died.

“One of the best things you can do for a child whose parent has died
is to let them grieve and heal on their own terms.”

L.J. Lowell

Not Quite Moms

“Not quite moms” are moms in every way except biologically, sort of. They are the only mom present—there are no shared custody plans and no weekends off. They are full-time parents, but not “mom” because mom died.

No one can replace “mom,” and “not quite moms” don’t want to replace her. However, “not quite moms” are expected to do all and be all like “mom” while simultaneously being reminded every day that they are not “mom” and will never be “mom.”

I am a “not quite mom” who lives in a small community that reminds me that I am not a “real mom.” This blog is anonymous because women like us have unique challenges of raising children as if they are our biological children while being reminded that they are not - anonymity is a tool used here for honest dialogue. We face a level of scrutiny that biological mothers do not. It’s frustrating. It’s challenging. But it’s also rewarding.

DISCLAIMER: I am not providing medical, mental health, or religious advice in any way. Always seek the advice of your medical provider and/or mental health provider regarding any questions or concerns about your or your dependent’s specific health needs. 

This blog is a way for me to share my experiences and encourage others who are on a similar path.